Have you ever been in a social situation and didn’t know what to say? Social anxiety can lead to avoiding starting conversations because of our insecurities. We might think that we don’t have anything interesting to say or that people wouldn’t care about our opinions. How many times have you been to a party, or a conference, or out for an evening of fun, and seen people that you’d like to get to know. But rather than allowing yourself to be vulnerable and exposing your interest, you chose to avoid approaching them? Though these worries may be common for many people, it is extremely difficult for the people with social anxiety.<\/p>\n
If you have social anxiety, and would like to take some steps towards overcoming this concern, answer the following questions:<\/p>\n
1- What is the worst that could happen? <\/strong><\/p>\n 2- Will introducing yourself result in being criticized or teased?<\/strong><\/p>\n 3- If you don’t hit it off with someone right away does that mean you won’t ever get along with another stranger?<\/strong><\/p>\n If you really think about numbers two and three, the answer is probably \u201cno.\u201d What\u2019s likely to happen when you have a small conversation with someone is that it may not lead into something meaningful; however, the practice of starting such conversations will help you build some confidence to approaching more people. Eventually starting conversations will lead to the possibility of developing more meaningful and deeper relationships. Think about it: we’re all strangers before we become friends, associates, colleagues, or even lovers.<\/p>\n In order to better prepare you for starting a conversation in any situation, we have four tips for you to try.<\/p>\n First, don’t worry about the first words out of your mouth being the funniest, cleverest or most meaningful openers. It is common for someone with social anxiety to have the perfect approach, and opening. We are very critical of ourselves. A casual introduction or comment on the weather works just fine. For example, \u201cI noticed your smile and think it\u2019s very endearing.\u201d<\/p>\n Second, depending on where you are when meeting someone, you can ask rely on comments pertaining to your current surroundings. If you are at an event, you could ask how the other person knows the host. Or whether they\u2019ve been part of the event in the past.<\/p>\n Third, talk about a positive aspect rather than a negative experience. It\u2019s not fun for people to hear negativity.<\/p>\n Fourth, ask open-ended questions and maintain a good balance of comments, stories, and questions. Be sure not to ask too many questions consecutively. And also make sure you\u2019re not the only one talking. Oftentimes it is easier for the socially anxious person to ask questions and take the attention away from themselves.<\/p>\n These four tips can be practiced in a safe setting such as a social anxiety group before you take them into the world. Each time you initiate a conversation, it will get easier. Moreover, the more you practice, the easier it gets. Conversations are wonderful learning tools. Once you have developed a few simple skills, you will be on the road to developing more meaningful relationships.<\/p>\n \u201cThere is no such thing as a worthless conversation, provided you know what to listen for. And questions are the breath of life for a conversation.\u201d ~James Nathan Miller<\/p>\n Examples of Conversation Starters<\/strong><\/p>\n 1. \u201cI don\u2019t know anyone around here so I thought I\u2019d come talk to you.\u201d or \u00a0\u201cI\u2019m a little nervous talking with strangers, but I just had to come say hi.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n 2. Talk about something you know the person is interested in.\u00a0\u201cWhat about the game last night!\u201d \u201cYankees (or other team) aren\u2019t doing so well this season.\u201d Or \u201cYour flowers are looking lovely.\u201d\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n 3. \u201cYou look like a [lawyer\/CEO\/baker\/some noble profession].\u201d The person is bound to ask why \u00a0you guessed that particular profession <\/strong><\/p>\n 4. Talk about a funny, embarrassing moment. <\/strong><\/p>\n 5. \u201cWhat\u2019d you get up to earlier today? <\/strong><\/p>\n 6. \u2018You look lost. Do you need help?\u201d <\/strong><\/p>\n 7. My daughter’s birthday party is this weekend. It’s taken so much planning! What do you do for your kids\u2019 birthday parties. <\/strong><\/p>\n 8. I bet you $50 you’re gonna turn me down. <\/strong><\/p>\n 9. \u2018I notice that you bought some apple cider vinegar. I have always wondered, what are the health benefits?\u2019 <\/strong><\/p>\n 10. That\u2019s an interesting T-shirt. What does that symbol stands for?\u2019<\/strong><\/p>\n 11. Do you have any trips coming up? <\/strong><\/p>\n 12. Are you watching Game of Thrones? House of Cards? Enter popular TV show here __________? <\/strong><\/p>\n 13. I\u2019m planning a special occasion meal. Do you have any restaurant recommendations? <\/strong><\/p>\n 14. I\u2019m looking for a new book? I really enjoy (biographies, fiction, sci-fi) Have you read any good books lately?<\/strong><\/p>\n 15. I love your necklace, tie, ring, brooch? Where did you get it? <\/strong><\/p>\n 16. Are you looking forward to anything special this week? <\/strong><\/p>\n 17. How did you hear about this event? How do you know the host of the party? Do you come here often?<\/strong><\/p>\n 18. Did you have a chance to listen to the news today? I didn\u2019t have time to check in. Did I miss anything? <\/strong><\/p>\n 19. What are you passionate about?<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Have you ever been in a social situation and didn’t know what to say? Social anxiety can lead to avoiding starting conversations because of our insecurities. We might think that we don’t have anything interesting to say or that people wouldn’t care about our opinions. 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