Couples Counseling

I really enjoy working with couples. Many times I find that couples have difficulty communicating for many different reasons. Sometimes one partner doesn’t feel it would matter if they were to bring up an issue, since they feel hopeless about anything changing. Other couples talk over each other, and have frustration for being misunderstood. These are common issues that surface within couples. It’s not too late to seek therapy. If you’re married, and think you’re headed towards a divorce, then therapy is a great alternative.

Ask yourself…

Has my relationship been rocky lately?

Do I still enjoy being intimate with my partner?

Does my partner still enjoy intimacy with me?

Do I feel misunderstood?

Do I feel things are never going to get better?

Do I trust my partner?

I can help if you’ve answered “yes” to any of the above questions. Would you like to feel more fulfilled in your relationship? Would you like more intimacy? How about building trust and reaching emotional safety?

As a therapist, I find that clients would like to know the structure of therapy. My responsibility is to help set up a safe environment for the couple to share their concerns. Since there’s a great deal of information most couples would like to share, I have each client complete a form about their perspective of themselves and their partners. This is given to the couple during the first session to take home with them.

During the first session, I gather information from both partners to determine the problems and have a goal set to achieve through therapy. During the second session, we review assertive communication skills to be on the same page. When the couple communicates in this respectful way, they tend to hear each other, and feel heard. This doesn’t necessarily solve the problem however it does help the process of achieving a more fulfilling relationship.

From the third session forward, we begin to peel the layers of the onion, so to speak, to determine the core issues, and with sensitivity, I will assist each partner validate, acknowledge, and show their understanding of their partner’s concerns. Eventually, each person may commit to changing patterns that are destructive to the relationship, and incorporate a healthier approach to help the relationship advance to a peaceful and enjoyable place.